A Married State

By Katherine Philips (“Orinda”)

Edited by Jack Lynch

[TK] The notes are my own.


A married state affords° but little ease
offers
The best of husbands are so hard to please.
This in wives’ careful° faces you may spell°
care-worn — make out
Though they dissemble° their misfortunes well.
fake
5 A virgin state is crowned with much content;
It’s always happy as it’s innocent.
No blustering husbands to create your fears;
No pangs of childbirth to extort your tears;
No children’s cries for to offend your ears;
10 Few worldly crosses° to distract your prayers:
challenges
Thus are you freed from all the cares that do
Attend on matrimony and a husband too.
Therefore Madam, be advised by me
Turn, turn apostate° to love’s levity,°
unbeliever — changeableness
15 Suppress wild nature if she dare rebel.
There’s no such thing as leading apes in hell.


Notes

leading apes in hell
Folk tradition held that spinsters — unmarried women — were condemned to this fate. The proverb shows up in print in 1573, and Shakespeare quotes it in The Taming of the Shrew and Much Ado about Nothing.